~ an online training program for white people commited to racial justice ~
If there was ever a time in recent history for white people to take action to end racism, this is it.
Trump's presidency has shaken white people's understanding of racism to its core. It's revealed what many people of color have known and been naming for generations – that the US has deeply normalized white supremacy and is built on a foundation of systemic oppression.
As a white person dedicated to social justice, you can see how racist Trump's administration is – but perhaps you didn't know how capable so many white people, perhaps including your own family and friends, were of supporting him.
You may be finding yourself coming to terms with just how prevalent and harmful white supremacy is – and how your white privilege has kept you ignorant and in denial of this reality in the first place.
So as Trump's policies roll out, you know you want to be fighting alongside people of color. But you also know that you may feel frozen in place by the feelings of shock, confusion, denial, and guilt that many white people have been dealing.
It's understandable for white people to have those feelings as they begin to notice we don't live in a post-racial society as we've been taught and how pervasive systemic racism actually is.
You just don't want those feelings to stop you from taking action.
This starts with not running away from the racism that exists both within yourself and your communities. Instead, it means acknowledging it – and that is a painful process.
With our unique Compassionate Activism approach, you can learn how to hold that pain of racism in a way that's healing and comes from a place of love and justice.
That way, you become increasingly free to take action against white supremacy – from a sense of wholeness and shared humanity.
Enroll today and get started immediately.
"Healing from Toxic Whiteness provides white anti-racists with crucial missing tools for the most challenging aspect of our work - navigating our own emotional reactions when confronted with the realities of white supremacy. These tools help us to work through our knee-jerk tendency to reject ourselves or other white people when we encounter how racism operates through us. With these tools, we can take on one of our most crucial responsibilities - to engage in productive dialogue with those who knowingly or unknowingly defend white supremacy. This program has helped me to become a more effective change agent by becoming more accepting of what is, within me and around me - so that I can be present to it, honor it, and transform it with courageous compassion." - Lenore
Once you notice just how insidious and ingrained racism really is – and how often you find yourself unintentionally upholding it – it can feel like your whole worldview is being shaken.
As you think about what you personally can do to address racism, you may find yourself wrestling with questions like:
What, then, do white people need to do to fully engage in anti-racism work?
For white people to truly engage in anti-racism work, they must first engage with their unconscious conditioning to think and act in racist ways.
This is often the first obstacle in approaching this work – and because it is so normalized and insidious, it can feel insurmountable.
While white people are not inherently or inevitably racist, they are all raised in societies built on systemic racism and have been bombarded since birth with conflicting messages that teach them to:
This means the question needs to shift from “Am I a racist?” to “How will I work towards undoing the racism I was raised with and have internalized?"
Because while we’d all love it if we could jump from being raised in a deeply racist society to becoming completely anti-racist, it doesn’t work like that.
The desire to not be racist is not enough, by itself, to stop someone from being racist.
By becoming conscious of your own conditioning, you will be able to choose whether or not to continue to do as you’ve been taught, or to act in accordance with your values of justice and humanity.
This can be a painful and disruptive process – but the only way out is through.
That's why we created this Healing from Toxic Whiteness training program.
Because getting in touch with our pain is the only way to heal it.
What You Will Gain
This online training program is based on the Compassionate Activism approach and is designed to teach you the very healing practices that white supremacy and other forms of systemic oppression desperately don’t want you to have.
Through this online training program, you'll be able to:
"I joined Healing from Toxic Whiteness because I wanted to act against racial injustice, but felt frustrated because that felt so theoretical to me. This program has opened my eyes to the racism around me and in me, and has allowed me to let go of my sense of guilt, entitlement, and all that goes along with “toxic whiteness.” I can now be closer to others, including people of color, because I am being my real self, and that has been such a gift." – Aiyana
How the Online Program Works
Activism isn't one size fits all and neither is this program. Everyone's time, capacity, and engagement style is different. So here's how we've built this program to fit into your schedule:
10 Video Modules
10 weeks of in-depth video-based content with transcripts to help you integrate this approach into your life
Readings, exercises, and guided visualizations supplement the video training sessions
Private Facebook Group
A private Facebook group exclusively for program members to support each other and work through challenges together
Lifetime access to the modules so you can revisit them as often as you'd like, whenever you'd like
Once you enroll, you'll have access to Module 1 of the course, and each week after that you'll get an email letting you know the next module is ready to be accessed. You can access the modules on Teachable's platform at any time, from anywhere.
"Healing from Toxic Whiteness has helped me to have more productive and genuine interactions with people, especially those who don't share my exact beliefs. Now I'm also able to better care for myself and more effectively navigate my own path towards an anti-racist existence. I still stand up for my values, but it is now from a place of greater wholeness, openness, and stability." – Gabriela
Drawing upon mindfulness and other Buddhist practices, this Compassionate Activism program is broke out into 10 modules, released weekly.
Module 1 - A Framework on How White Supremacy Emotionally Harms White People
While white supremacy obviously benefits white people in many social and material ways, it's actually far more emotionally harmful than we often realize. Since our society struggles to acknowledge the pain of people of color from racism, it's understandable that we don't for white people either.
However the too common reaction of white people expressing disproportionate anger and denial at the mere mention of racism reveals that there's some deep pain they're running away from. During colonial America, white supremacy began to offer people of European descent a Faustian bargain - granting them white privilege in exchange for their own humanity and pre-racism sense of identity.
It was the only way to get white people to disregard the ongoing pain of people of color at the hands of other white people and institutions. This means racism requires white people to numb out their own hearts and disconnect them from their own cultural heritage and historical struggles. And most are only just beginning to realize that.
Module 2 - The Cyclical Journey of Healing from Privilege
White privilege disconnects white people from the reality of racism so they won't notice it happening within them and all around them. So white people need to proactively reconnect themselves to it in order to address it.
However, this is often a painful and disturbing process because it requires them to deeply acknowledge that they've been kept so ignorant of the reality of racism and yet personally benefited so much from it.
So to be actually in touch with racism is to feel the pain of racism and be moved by it to take action to alleviate it. As white people become more racially conscious, it will open them up to a lot of pain that they hadn't even realized was there before.
Module 3 -The Compassionate Activism Approach
Without some way of holding those many layers of pain, it is too easy and understandable for white people to revert back to being asleep and disconnected. However, just because we reject our own pain doesn't mean it goes away.
Instead that pain grows in the background, unconsciously driving our reactions of fear and anger and in ways that are not aligned with our values. This is the dynamic at play when well-intentioned white people react very defensively at hearing that racism exists and especially within them and refuse to engage in that conversation - and thereby perpetuate racism.
Compassionate Activism holds the space for people to get in touch with their pain in an affirming, humanizing way so they can know what to heal. Once we have cared for our pain in that moment, we're able to move from a place of wholeness - because we are holding all of ourselves, including the parts we had been rejecting. And from this place of wholeness, we're able to move with greater presence and respond to situations from our values of love and justice.
Module 4 - The First Practice of Noticing Toxicity and Acknowledging Multiple Realities
Due to their unconscious conditioning by white supremacy, many white people – even while believing racism is wrong – don’t realize how often they associate white culture and experiences with what's “normal” and “good." This leads them to struggle with acknowledging that their experiences may not actually be the norm.
Acknowledging racism and its impact is difficult when people of color are considered “other” and their reality is not affirmed as being different from that of white people. Learning to recognize toxic whiteness and engage it, as well as holding the multiple realities as all being true, can ground white people in what is actually happening - versus in the lies of white supremacy.
Module 5 - The Second Practice of Humble Curiosity and Gentle Mindfulness
When we hurt someone unintentionally, we feel pain at realizing that. So in order to avoid feeling that pain, we engage in a lot of denial and judgement in order to shift the focus away from the original harm we caused.
That’s why leaning in with humble curiosity – embracing the idea that maybe we don’t know everything and that there’s more to understand – opens us up to exploring what’s happening within us without judging, shaming, and blaming ourselves or others.
With this curiosity, we’re able to stay with our feelings until we get to the core pain at play. This helps shift well-intentioned white people from denying how they’re expressing racism because of their fear of being racist to exploring what implicit biases may have surfaced in them – and getting in touch with the very real pain that comes with them. That pain and grief can then be channeled into acting in solidarity with people of color.
Module 6 - The Third Practice of Compassionate Self-Accountability and Radical Education
Once we're aware of the pain we’re experiencing, we can take responsibility for how we had not been attending to it before. This involves acknowledging what you’ve done, how it contributes to systemic racism, the impacts that both realizing and not realizing that have had on you, and what you can do to make amends.
Making amends means addressing your white privilege – examining how it allowed you to ignore the collective harm you’ve contributed to because it personally benefited you – and to not run away from that truth.
This raises a crucial question: How will you realign your actions with your values to not contribute to collective harm? It begins with listening to the perspectives of people of color – and learning how your ignorance has upheld a legacy of systemic racism.
Module 7 - The Fourth Practice of Compassionate Truth-Telling and Consciousness-Raising Inquiry
Since systemic harm happens in relationships, part of the healing process involves taking actions to restore those relationships with both people of color and with white people.
Since you’ve been able to be in touch with the pain and take responsibility for having caused harm, you are now able to do the same with those you have harmed (if they agree to discussing it with you) and with your community of white peers so that they may learn from your experiences.
In holding the space for us to share our truth, we are more able to hold space for others to as well – even when that truth is different from our own. In engaging other white people in particular, you can work towards raising consciousness, interrogating biases, and confronting the impact of those biases on people of color.
Module 8 - The Fifth Practice of Shared Envisioning and Compassionate Non-Cooperation
When we view someone as our adversary, then much of our time and energy goes into handling the resistance in our relationship. However, once we're reconnected through compassion and understanding for our respective truths, we're able to identify our shared values of ending racism.
Only then can we co-create a vision that is inspiring and strategic in order to advance our shared goals. But sometimes, we do not want to collaborate together or are unable to co-create a vision and that's okay. Then we can choose to not work with them – without making them wrong for it or retaliating against them for it.
Instead, we can wish them continued healing and growth so that we may be able to create together in the future for a more just, loving world.
Module 8 - Putting It Into Action
Now that you've learned the Compassionate Activism approach, you will learn how to build a community that is designed to hold space for yourself and others who have come together to do anti-racism work.
Module 9 - Mindfulness Exercises
Get additional mindfulness exercises helping you deepen your capacity to hold your feelings with gentleness and curiosity. These exercises can be used at any time to help you move beyond your initial reactions and look deeply at what is coming up for you.
Module 10 - Your Top Questions Answered
Since the Compassionate Activism approach is often times the opposite of what we've been taught to do, it takes practice for it to become more integrated into our lives. So to help with the common struggles, we answer your top questions about applying Compassionate Activism in this module.
"Compassionate Activism has absolutely and powerfully impacted and shaped a new way for me to look at everything. More than ever before, I’m able to move closer to the most painful and raw situations in my life to more deeply understand what I am experiencing. Even if I’m upset with them, I’m also much more able to understand where other folks are coming from. I’m seeing the impact of this program playing out almost daily in my life!" – Bernardita
Costs and Logistics
This online social justice training program costs only $97 USD. This all-inclusive fee gives you access to:
Refund policy: This program comes with a 15-day money back guarantee.
"I want to extend an enormous amount of gratitude to the Everyday Feminism team! From my Healing from Toxic Whiteness journey, I emerged with a newfound confidence to talk about racial justice within white communities from a place of non-attachment and dedicated service. It allowed for intellectual and emotional growth. It was an exceptional experience to be held in witness of shame and guilt as a white person while still being held compassionately accountable by Sandra. This has profoundly shifted my worldview and fueled my sense of gratitude. My journey in this program gifted me the opportunity to share and process in safe space. I will definitely be returning to the course material to deepen my understanding and personal study." - Maxi
Payment Options and Scholarships
While the program needs to be financially sustainable in order for us to be able to offer it, we're also committed to making it accessible to people with more limited financial means. Therefore we offer a few different alternative payment options:
Please note that only one option can be used at a time.
Who Is This Program For?
This online training program was created for white people who:
Please note: While this program is geared towards helping white people heal from toxic whiteness, it is also open to people of color interested in better understanding the emotional resistance that many white people have to addressing racism within themselves and their communities.
"Compassionate Activism has given me specific tools to learn how to respond to situations instead of reacting to them by waiting to engage with others until I've taken care of my needs first. I've always felt that I would be much more effective in reaching people and opening their hearts if I could have compassion for where they're coming from. That's the magic of this course — it's cultivating our imagination of what's possible." – Suzanne
Frequently Asked Questions
Meet the Trainers
SANDRA KIM, Lead Trainer and Founder of Everyday Feminism and Compassionate Activism
Sandra Kim founded and leads Everyday Feminism, the largest online magazine helping people apply intersectional feminism to their real life. She developed Compassionate Activism out of her commitment to helping people free themselves from the suffering caused by systemic oppression.
Compassionate Activism builds off of the practices that Sandra has learned from Zen Buddhism and other Buddhism-influenced professional and personal development programs that were instrumental to her becoming the person and leader she is today. While it took her a decade to develope a strong healing and spiritual practice, she created the Compassionate Activism approach so you can incorporate healing into your life on a much faster timeline!
DARA SILVERMAN, Guest Trainer and Racial Justice Organizer
Dara Silverman is an organizer, writer, and trainer who has been building movements for social justice for over 20 years. As the former National Coordinator of Showing Up for Racial Justice (SURJ), Dara built out the biggest US national network of white people taking action for racial justice and raised over $500,000 for Black-led organizing. She currently offers anti-racism consulting and training to organizations and leaders.
"Healing from Toxic Whiteness has helped me feel more optimistic about building healthy supportive relationships with other white people invested in anti-racism work. After I took the online workshop to this program, I shared it with every white person who I knew with an interest in anti-racism work. This program is by far the best model of combining compassion with activism to address the difficult feelings that arise with privilege. It gave me so much hope to see all of the wisdom gathered in this course through its participants." - Elizabeth
"One of the main things Healing from Toxic Whiteness taught me was to hold myself and other white folks accountable. The concept of "inviting" discussion with white folks was new to me. Having oppressed people constantly hold their oppressor accountable didn’t make much sense to me, especially since the oppressor is very unlikely to relate and listen. After all, oppressors are conditioned to oppress, even if they're working on understanding their position as a privileged person. The program taught me to use my relative privilege when talking to other white folks because they are more likely to listen to me. Plus, I've learned and gotten practical tools in self care, self reflection and effective communication while doing this work!" - Jenny